Well 2019 is FINALLY coming to an end. Is it just me or did this year D-R-A-G? IDK how they managed to fit five years into 2019 but they gosh darn did it.
For most of us, there's something about the end of the year that makes you super nostalgic.
You reflect on the previous 12 months, the ups, the downs, the laughs, the cries.
Facebook rounds up all your photos, comments, statuses, and new friends into a neat little video,
Spotify lets you know if you're a true music snob or if the only new album you listened to this year was Post Malone (guilty, so guilty),
and you can even get a collage of your top 9 Instagram images that everyone HEARTED<3 so much.
Another phenomena that happens and the end of every year, is that we all inexplicable separate ourselves into 2 categories.
"Hell yeah, new year new me! Let's do it, woo!"
"Literally nothing is changing but the numbers on the calendar, so chill out, Stephanie."
The first group is ripped and ready to CRUSH. SOME. GOALS. It's RESOLUTION TIME BABY!
And the second group, well... they're a bit disillusioned by the whole tradition.
And can we REALLY blame them? According to U.S. News, approximately 80% of resolutions fail by the second week of February.
We set our yearly goals, our "New Year Resolutions" as we call them;
"I'm gonna get so fit this year!"
"I'm going to read 15 books!"
"I'm going to save 5% of every paycheck!"
We start January so strong, but then, we fail to follow through. By July we realize we're even farther from our goal then when we started.
So why does this happen?
Is it because setting and meeting goals is essentially impossible?
Is it because we're putting all of our faith in the magic of the new year to get us there?
Is it because, well frankly, we just suck??
We just might be doing it wrong...
Here's 4 reasons you may have failed to keep your New Year Resolutions...
1- You don't actually WANT to succeed
Whether your resolution is to get healthier, save money, read more books, or whatever, there's a chance you don't actually want to do this.
Think about it. Is this something you truly want?
Or is it something you think you should do? Because you think its "the right things to do".
Is it "the right thing to do" because you say so?
Or is it "the right thing to do" according to society, or your mom, or your spouse?
Unless you truly want to meet this goal, change this habit, or start a new routine, you will never be successful.
Reach deep down and discover if this is some thing you truly want, and why.
2 - You're relying on will power
Here's the deal, natural will power is kind of myth.
The truth is, most of us are lacking in this category. It's so much easier to do what we want in the moment instead of making choices that help us reach our goals. Its really just human nature.
The great news is, you don't need will power. You need habits and you need a plan.
Creating habits allows making the right choices in the right moments to feel REWARDING, then just plain easy, then, like second nature.
3 - You're operating in absolutes
Going all in, cold turkey, full throttle, etc. might work for some people.
But for rest of us, it creates massive FOMO.
Like when you tell a child not to touch the hot stove and suddenly getting their hands on that burner seems to become their only mission in life.
If you go into your diet telling yourself you can NEVER have pizza again, the next pizza you come across is going to be more tempting than the devil in the desert.
If you take a more moderate, sustainable approach to meeting your goals, you're much more likely to succeed.
4 - You don't have a plan
If your resolution starts and ends at "read 15 books this year" , you're setting yourself up for failure.
It's been proven time and time again that the most effective way to meet your goals is to HAVE A PLAN.
What books are you going to read? When are you going to make time to read these books? How many books do you need to read each month to make sure you hit your goal? What are you going to do when you'd rather spend 3 hours on a Netflix binge than reading a few chapters?
If you can't answer these questions, the chances of you meeting your goal is, dismally low. WOMP. WOMP.
So make a plan, and make it happen!
Okay, so maybe you just realized that you've been doing this whole "resolution thing" wrong your entire life. Don't feel bad, almost all of us have.
Nobody taught us this stuff in high school! We were too busy learning that Mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
But the good news is that keeping your New Year Resolutions IS TOTALLY POSSIBLE, and you my dear, are %100 capable.
If you REALLY want to crush those goals this year, you'll need an entirely new approach.
And now that you know what WONT help you achieve your goals, it's time to focus on the things that CAN help you.
The Habit Breaker Guide is the survival guide for busting habits, making changes, and shaking up your world (in all the best ways)
➡ 5 step Walk-Through: This book will guide you through each of the 5 steps of breaking habits and provide tips and tricks to help you reach your goal!
➡ Real Life Examples: The Habit Breaker Guide contains REAL examples from REAL people who got REAL results
➡ Guided Exercises: Chock-full of actionable, habit busting exercises that will ultimately create the road map to keeping those resolutions!
Now, go forth and make the new year your beezy!